Reference Calls

I have recently heard this nonsense shidduch related concept in which you provide the number of your friend to either the match or someone who will be calling on behalf of a match for them to call to do "research" on you. This is a very retarded idea for a couple of reasons

1. if a hot girl is calling a guy's friend to ask about him, the guys friend will tell her every lie in the book to get him on that date with her (assuming he's a good friend)
2. if a guy is calling a girl's friend and he is known as having a good job or rich parents, the girls friend will swear on her life that her girlfriend is not a psycho in order to get her friend on that date with him. The only reason she wouldn't do this is if her plan is to steal this guy from her friend, in which case she is a bitch.

With the two previous reasons in mind, we can definitively conclude that reference calls are a complete waste of time and the only way you are going to find the truth about the other person is by not being a lazyass and going out finding out for yourself.

I once had a girl ask me for a reference for myself. I simply gave her my Google Voice number. Needless to say, her & I didn't last for too long.

In conclusion, anyone who is dumb enough to engage in this inane practice deserves to be lied to, and if they expect anything different, they clearly lack the fundamental knowledge.of basic human behavior.