Shadchanim

Shadchanim are used to introduce guys and girls to each other. They are supposed to follow Jewish principles in doing this. However, this is rarely ever the case. Shadchanim sexualize and objectify Jewish girls in innumerable more ways than secular dating does. Girls get asked all sorts of offensive questions such as their current dress size and how many sizes they think they will be able to drop. This ignores the fact that she could have been a counselor at Camp Living Wonders for 3 years, or that she has a very confident personality. This reduces her to an object, a sexual object. It ignores who she is and focuses on only how she looks. This is exactly what going to shadchanim is supposed to avoid, however, as we can see, clearly the opposite is achieved.

Additionally, if you need a shadchan to hold your hand while you're dating, that is a very clear indicator that you are not ready to get married. It is also a clear indicator that if you ignore this advice and get married anyways, your parents are going to be shelling out a lot of cash to your local marriage counselor, or rabbi who thinks he's a marriage counselor (I’m looking at you Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein (who went on a grand total of one date before he proposed)).

I know that this has been a long-awaited article for all my readers, and it is finally complete. This article includes many of the main points from a previous one of my articles which was taken down for lacking the qualities which this blog is supposed to demonstrate. After having done much research and speaking with many many people on this topic, I am finally ready provide a critical and definitive analysis on the use of shadchanim.

According to Judaism, girls are very special and are not supposed to be sexualized or objectified in any way. Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein mentions this all the time, yet he supports every topic in which the following article makes an argument against.


When a guy goes to a shadchan she will summon up her yenta powers to show him a picture of a young lady and pause while he looks at it. During the awkward silence, a single question is implied: "Would you have sex with this girl?" Now this question is being asked based solely on her looks. She could have been a counselor at Camp Living Wonders for 3 summers in a row, been on shluchus in a Jewish orphanage in Ukraine during the year, have excellent Jewish middos, and have a really great and outgoing personality, yet none of that matters. All that goes right out the window, and she is judged on her physical sex appeal. If guys make a judgement about a girl solely based on her looks, then they will either accept or reject a girl based on how she looks. This is blatant sexual objectification, and supposedly exactly what rabbis such as Zecharia Wallerstein vehemently oppose, yet clearly support.

It is actually very funny and hypocritical how shadchanim hate tinder (and now jswipe) when the services they offer are merely a slightly more glorified version of those apps. I actually don’t really understand why people hate Jswipe so much; it's really is the same thing as going to a shadchan, just minus the all the yenta.

MYTH: Shadchanim are used to ‘make things more tznius’.
FACT: Going to a shadchan has nothing to do with tznius and everything to do with ensuring communal obedience.


FACT: Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein is a major hypocrite. He contradicts his own ideas with his own ideas. His entire hashkafa is philosophically incohesive and makes no sense to anyone with a brain.

"Worship your body and beauty and sexual allure and you will always feel ugly. And when time and age start showing, you will die a million deaths before they finally grieve you."