I know, I know, I haven't posted in a while. Well, I was directed to a certain COL article by one of my fans in which a bunch of shadchanim get together in a group and gossip about which girl talked to which boy when they were in 9th grade. They are upset about being labeled shadchanim, because everyone knows that the shadchan is the biggest gossip in the community, so they decided to label themselves "The UnShadchans". If you actually read the article, the only way in which they differentiate themselves from shadchanim is they make events where anyone can come and give them more names to gossip about. This seems very shadchanny to me. And now, some chosen excerpts from the article! These are direct quotes and not edited or changed in any way.

"There's a certain stigma involved with being a "shadchan." Even many shadchanim don't like the term," explains Milecki. "So we have coined a new one: The UnShadchan. That means everyone can help make a shiduch."

What they did here, is they call themselves a new name all while doing the same exact thing. The difference is now that they are "unshadchanim", everyone is allowed in their loshan hara orgy.

"They opened a "Shiduch Office" to offer better, easier and more effective ways of networking and sharing around information and profiles of eligible Chabad singles to date and marry."

Now let's evaluate this statement: "to offer better, easier and more effective ways of networking and sharing around information"


Whenever a shadchan says the words network, share around, and information, they are just fancy ways of saying that we are going to gossip some.

"To be invited as an UnShadchan, you will have to submit a minimum of 2 profiles of single men and one or more of single women that you will present at the event. These singles can be children, siblings, Shabbos guests, friends, children of friends or co-workers."

Basically, the only difference between and unshadchan and a shadchan is that a shadchan has names to gossip about and an unshadchan needs to make events to gossip about who hung out with who on which rooftop Sukkos 5772 in Crown Heights.

Get over yourselves. Please. The only people you are going to convince with this crap are those who liked shadchanim in the first place, bless your hearts.


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