Rashi: Clarity Needed in Shidduchim?

I'm not going to post the whole article, as most of it was useless nonsense, however I will include the important parts and the subsequent commentary. I guess they don't teach you much about relationships in psychotherapy school. The premise of the article written by Rabbi Shmuel Druin is that more time spent with someone does not equal knowing them better. This is a very retarded idea. If you desire to waste your precious life then you can go read the entire article which will be linked below.

The big question is always, "Are we 'compatible'?" This is the hardest yet easiest question to answer. Simply, if you hold the same values, have views that each other can respect, enjoy spending time together, and are attracted both spiritually and physically (yes, I said physically,)
At least he included that part....
then you are compatible.
I'm glad that this Rabbi Shmuel Druin has the authority to determine this with blanket statements as such. Really says a lot about how seriously we should take everything else he says. He is one of the reasons there are so many unhappy marriages in the frum world.
Once you start looking deeper, there can be no end.

However, the bottom line is that spending more time with each other does not provide clarity.
Read that line again
We tend to get stuck in the details and the technicalities which create doubt. Even if you have every point of compatibility, it is never fool-proof.
Right, but it is most certainly more fool-proof than your 3 qualifications for compatibility

In conclusion, we will never be 100% certain and spending more and more time will not provide the clarity we are looking for.
24 hours is enough time to get to know someone before getting engaged, right? Those 3 things can be determined in that time frame....
Follow these three steps and hopefully Hashem will do the rest.
"Be a retard and Hashem will do the rest"

The bottom line is that Rabbi Shmuel Druin should not be taken seriously and anyone who follows his "steps to clarity" is setting themselves up for lots of problems. You have been warned. Following this advice is both retarded and stupid.

http://www.collive.com/show_news.rtx?id=24998&alias=clarity-needed-in-shidduchim