Rashi: The Problem of Getting a 'Get"

In this post, I will cleverly dissect part of an article written by a young "orthodox" female who thinks she's oh-so-clever, named Eden Farber. Below, a single portion has been taken out of the article. This was not cut and pasted together to make her look stupid; she does a good enough job of that all by herself! Most of the article is unimportant, therefore I didn't include those parts. For those who want to waste their time reading more two-line paragraphs, the link can be found below. The commentary is in bold as usual, and the article is not in bold, in order to differentiate between the stupid and the intelligent. I will carefully demonstrate her complete detachment from reality and the severe mental delusions from which she suffers. Refoua Shelama.

Rabba Farber used the first part of the article as a forum to spew some liberal garbage about workplace inequality that would make Cenk Uygur wet himself. I'm starting off where it begins to have a little bit of substance.

In the Jewish community, especially in Israel, there’s a situation that requires a lot of confidence and perseverance from women being victimized – and from all of us. Here’s the problem:
The problem is that Rabba Farber tells me that I'm victimizing women whom I have never met who are living in Israel. This must be similar to the idea of "White Privilage." Very intelligent, Eden.

In traditional Orthodox marriages, men have all the control; which, in a healthy marriage, is (somewhat) irrelevant. But in a bad marriage, when couples are going through a divorce, women often become victims in the Orthodox community.

I'm not sure what you're talking about when you say that in Orthodox marriages men have all the control.... In certain communities, such as Satmer, that is true as a general rule, but in the mainstream orthodox world, the power structure in marriages follows that of gouyish world. As for divorce, in some orthodox circles, women do become victims, which is a serious issue when it does happen.

All too often during divorces, men withhold gets, divorce documents, trapping their wives in dysfunctional, sometimes even abusive or life-threatening marriages (such women, by the way, are referred to as agunot).

Here we have another example of Rabba Farber not providing all the facts. In order to bash white American males, Rabba Farber ignores key statistical facts about the state of Israeli agunot. In fact, the result of recent studies may shock Rabba Farber out of her chair as they do not line up with her political worldview. 180 women are being held in a marriage against their will in Israel. However 185 men are being held in a marriage against their will in Israel. Obviously, you don't care about the men although the numbers are basically even, right, Lena Dunham?

Families are torn apart, and women have no way to easily move forward. They simply can’t start a new life until their husbands (who sometimes go into hiding) grant them their freedom.

This is terrible, however Beit Din, according to Jewish law, has excellent ways of dealing with this specific issue. You obviously wouldn't like those ways, but they are nonetheless quite effective.

If you’re interested, additional information about this issue is detailed in the book “Marriage and Divorce in the Jewish State” by Susan Weiss & Netty Gross-Horowitz.
Oh great, a "woman" and another..... somebody???? with a hyphenated last name. I bet they're both oh so wet over the idea of a woman being president.

So there’s a flawed marriage system, and many are suffering because of it. Marriages, of course, are personal, not communal, issues. So what does this have to do with us as a Jewish community?

I think, in a word, everything.
Of course you do.

The Jewish community is giving in to a system that favors abusers. This can’t go on. So I suggest we, as a community, take upon ourselves Sheryl Sandberg’s ideas to be successful, and work toward freeing agunot.
Once again, the Beit Din was pretty effective with this particular issue, but you wouldn't like that as there are no women sitting on the Beit Din.

The rest of the article was useless advice which those who already follow don't need, and which won't alter the paths of the heretofore unconvinced. This article, like most of hers, is simply a waste of pixels on your screen.

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